Family Caregiver Blog

Is it sepsis?

Sepsis occurs when the body overreacts to an infection. Its occurrence is on the rise, and it is deadly. You don’t catch sepsis from someone else. It’s a complication of an existing infection—of the lungs (pneumonia), bladder, or skin, for instance. With sepsis, the normal healing process goes awry. A too-massive immune response spreads through…

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Talking to your parents about money

In some families, money equals love. In others, it’s a measure of success. It’s a sensitive subject, yet it needs to be discussed. Part of supporting your loved one involves understanding his or her thinking about money. After all, something could happen where you suddenly need to step in and manage the finances. Conversation starters….

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“Promise you won’t …”

The request every daughter or son dreads: “Promise you won’t put me in a nursing home.” The child in you wants to provide a soothing answer: “Of course. Never.” Best to pause and think this through first. You can’t predict the future—your loved one’s needs or your own health and abilities. It may be that…

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Preventing a second heart attack

Recovery from a heart attack takes time. First there are the physical and emotional reactions to deal with. A big part of recovery, however, is embracing lifestyle changes to keep the heart as healthy as possible and prevent a recurrence. It takes dedication to change old habits. But the effort is much less than what it…

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Avoiding the “War of the Wardrobe”

If your relative has dementia and is wearing mismatched or inappropriate clothing, it’s time to step in. He or she has likely lost awareness of personal appearance. Also gone is awareness of the need for a sweater when it’s cold. Or a lighter shirt when it’s hot. As much as possible, allow your loved one…

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Preventing aspiration pneumonia

People with advanced and end-stage dementia are prone to pneumonia. A lot. This is not the kind of pneumonia you can get a vaccine against. With advanced dementia, the body does not reliably close off the esophagus to prevent inhalation of particles of food or drink. When food or liquid slip into the lungs instead…

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Visits: more than just business

Stretched for time? No one knows that feeling better than family caregivers. There’s so much to do and so little time to do it. Although productive and practical, a task-focused visit can inadvertently demean the person you care for. No one wants to be reduced to an item on the to-do list! For the receiver,…

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Making medical decisions in a crisis

If you are named as health care decision maker for your loved one, you may be called upon to make very important decisions on very short notice. At a time like this, it’s easy, and very human, to get caught up in fear. Fear does not make for the best decisions. If you can, call…

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Getting pneumonia while hospitalized

If the person you care for has been hospitalized, you may have noticed an odd-looking device on their bedside table. This is a “spirometer.” Patients blow into it several times an hour to prevent a particularly serious infection: hospital-acquired pneumonia. Hospital patients spend a lot of time in bed. Without activity, fluids build up in…

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“Sometimes I feel furious!”

Anger as an emotion is neither good nor bad. It is a messenger. It can provide energy and motivate you to action. But anger by itself has never solved a problem. The trouble with anger rests on how you respond to its message. Ideally, you want to harness that energy for finding constructive solutions to…

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